When I was in college, I did the Myers-Briggs Personality Type tests and I thought I knew myself... I thought I really knew the way I thought, when I took the tests I answered them all from the "Business Me". The me that I projected a lot in the workplace. This wasn't the real me, so my Myers-Briggs tests came out very different than who I really was. The school teachers and the councilors in my school all told me before I took the test that I would not be the type I thought I was... but I showed them and I proved to them I was an ESTP. How wrong I was... I am not an ESTP. I'm only like an ESTP when I want to be... when I put on my "Business Me"... it's an uncomfortable "ME" to be... After having not worked for almost 4 yrs now... I am at home with myself and who I am and what I am like. I know what I like to do and what I don't like to do. There was no need for me to work during this time so I didn't have the pressure of.. "You have to get a job" I could have used the income sure, but it wasn't a need for me to be employed. Of course since staying home isn't what I want to do forever I once again began searching for employment and I have found that I am searching for jobs I never thought of before... many of which require an education but I am secretly deeply drawn to.
I came across a site about "Your perfect job" of course it was based on the Myers-Briggs tests and I cringed at first because I thought oh god, you know.. I have to be completely honest now and answer these questions based on the real me.. the me I hide and the me I know I really am, no matter what kind of face I put on at work... I realized it was time to think of the real person I am and to find a job that would suit me and make me happy as I just do not want to do any job just because I'm experienced in it, I want a job that will make me feel happy.
After taking the Myers-Briggs Tests, I must have found 5 sites to take tests with and a 3-4 books and every time, with all honesty of who I am I found the correct Myers-Briggs type for myself. I was so amazed at the results that I could hardley believe what I was reading. The real me, as simple and as plain as can be... right in front of my eyes, page after webpage and bookpage of the truth starting back at me... and me actually in tears, because this was the me I knew I was... and just hid in every workplace I worked in because I always felt so out of place.
Here now is the type that I am... that I truely am... and now I can keep in mind my personality when I go for a job, and now I realize why I am the way I am at jobs and how to not work against my best traits and work towards a job that utilizes all the things that make me "me".
INFP
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Introverted Intuitive Feeling Perceiving
One of the 16 personality types of the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator
People of this type tend to be: quiet, reserved, and kind; deeply passionate, sensitive, and easily hurt; loving and dedicated to those close to them; creative, original, and imaginative; curious and flexible in small matters; nonconforming. The most important thing to INFPs is their deeply held beliefs and living in harmony with their values. Loyal and committed - they want lifelong relationships. They are driven to meet other's needs and have a deep capacity for love.
In the relationship arena, this causes them to have a very deep capacity for love and caring which is not frequently found with such intensity in the other types. The INFP does not devote their intense feelings towards just anyone, and are relatively reserved about expressing their inner-most feelings. They reserve their deepest love and caring for a select few who are closest to them. INFP will be fiercely loyal once they are committed. With their strong inner core of values, they are intense individuals who value depth and authenticity in their relationships
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POSITIVES:
:: Good listener with genuine concern for others
:: Warmly concerned and caring towards others
:: Sensitive and perceptive about what others are feeling
:: Loyal and committed - they want lifelong relationships
:: Deep capacity for love and caring
:: Driven to meet other's needs
:: Strive for "win-win" situations
:: Nurturing, supportive and encouraging
:: Flexible and diverse
:: Tend have a strong faith and very spiritual
:: Creative and inspirational
NEGATIVES:
:: May tend to be shy and reserved
:: Don't like to have their "space" invaded
:: Extreme dislike of conflict
:: Extreme dislike of criticism
:: Strong need to receive praise and positive affirmation
:: May react very emotionally to stressful situations
:: Have difficulty leaving a bad relationship
:: Have difficulty scolding or punishing others
:: Tend to be reserved about expressing their feelings
:: Perfectionist tendencies may cause them to not give themselves enough credit
:: Tendency to blame themselves for problems, and hold everything on their own shoulders
:: Tend to take things too personally
:: Have high standards, may have difficulty working in groups because of this
:: They may tend to lose things or to forget appointments
JOBS
They may be teachers, ministers, writers, counselors or psychologists, but they will most likely all spend extra time trying to help people with special problems. This makes them outstanding counselors, and good friends. They are driven to do something meaningful and purposeful with their lives. The INFP will be happiest in careers which allow them to live their daily lives in accordance with their values, and which work towards the greater good of humanity.
:: Service-oriented, usually putting the needs of others above their own
:: Prefer to work alone, and may have problems working on teams
:: Growth-oriented
| Architect | Church Worker | Missionary | Researcher |
RELATIONSHIPS
INFPs are warm and caring individuals who highly value authenticity and depth in their personal relationships. They are usually quite perceptive about other people's feelings and motives, and are consequently able to get along with all sorts of different people. However, the INFP will keep their true selves reserved from others except for a select few, with whom they will form close and lasting friendships.
INFPs feels tremendous loyalty and commitment to their relationships. They feel a need to be in a committed, loving relationship. If they are not involved in such a relationship, the INFP will be either actively searching for one, or creating one in their own minds. The INFP is likely to not only respect their mate's perspectives and goals, but to support them with loyal firmness.
In general, INFPs are warmly affirming and loving partners who make the health of their relationships central in their lives. Although cautious in the beginning, they become firmly loyal to their committed relationships, which are likely to last a lifetime. They take their relationships very seriously, and will put forth a great deal of effort into making them work.
INFPs are withdrawn and are sometimes hard to get to know. But those that take the time to get to know them will find them warm and gentle, with a surprising sense of humor. They care deeply for those they consider special friends. Putting forth-unusual sacrifices to help such individuals. They often have a subtle, tragic motif running through their lives -- inner pain and unease which others seldom detect
CAREER CHOICES:
OCCUPATIONAL CHOICES
* Actor
* Artist
* Architect
* Church Worker
* College Professor: Humanities/Art
* Counselor
* Editor
* Educational Consultant
* Employment Development Specialist
* English Teacher
* Fine Arts Teacher
* Human Resources Development Specialist
* Journalist
* Librarian
* Minister/Priest
* Missionary
* Musician
* Psychiatry
* Psychologist
* Religious Educator
* Researcher
* Social Scientist
* Social Worker
* Speech Pathologist
* Writer: poet/Novelist
INFP's and STRESS
INFPs and Stress
INFPs feel internal turmoil when they find themselves in situations in which there is conflict between their inner code of ethics and their relationships with others. They feel caught between pleasing others and maintaining their own integrity. Their natural tendency to identify with others, compounded with their self-sacrificial dispositions, tends to leave them confused as to who they really are. Their quiet personalities further feeds their feelings of depersonalization. The INFP's quest for self-identity then seems even more alluring � but increasingly impossible to attain.
As with all NFs, the INFP will feel lost and perplexed at stressful times. As stress builds, INFPs become disconnected from their own personality and perceived place in life. They will lose sight of who they are in relation to time and place. They may not make basic observations, while instead they will focus on the more abstract and symbolic meanings of a particular interaction. This can sometimes baffle those who expect more direct communication and a fairly concrete relationship.
More about INFPs
INFP Careers
FIND YOUR TYPE
The above link is one of the only really good free tests, and it's only 4 questions, if you know yourself well this one will really show you your type and get you on your way.. if you are still not sure, then take a more advanced test, which I am sorry to say are harder to find online for free. When I took this 4 question test I about kicked myself in the ass for ever having done any of the very long tests because that was so simple and so easy to see my type.
Anyhow....
If you've no idea what your type is you might want to invest some raw soul searching and take a test to see where you fit in... and take a test for yourself.
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